I can help you today.
Since you are offline I will respond to your posting and wait for you to comment. If I go offline I will see it when I return. I am in the path of this hurricane so if I lose power please be patient. His obvious priority is his career since he has been working for the government for 30 years. Then his family. You are someone he has struck up a relationship with but has never met personally. That could be a red flag.