in a cupboard in the living room, while packing boxes to move.
by the way, this IS confidential right? No will be able to google me and find this online anywhere, correct?
PS. I knew her when she was alive, so those conversations would seem redundant.
Hello, I'm not sure if you're here or not as it says that you're initializing...
Okay, there you are!
Ok, no, you won't be able to be googled and find this discussion
I do find it odd that she was in a cupboard in a box
And since you knew her, then maybe you can suggest that she be placed in her favorite place
Has he been open as to why he still has the ashes stored away?
Are you still there?
If he doesn't seem open to spreading her remains at this time, you'll just have to allow him to get there in his own time. There's not telling when or if that'll ever be but there's some reason that he's holding on to them and if he's unwilling to share that with you, then you just have to be supportive and there for him so when he does decide to talk about it, he won't feel uncomfortable doing so.
that's exactly the tack I took, laying a foundation of safety for him if/when he felt like talking about it or doing something about it, in a non-judgemental or incredulous way. That wasn't easy!