Sorry I have never done a live chat before
What should I do?
I need his help to purchase this home, but after we found the house, and I put my credit on the line he seems scared
My child is Five years old. he met her when she was three. She adores him, and he does love her, but I think he fears being a dad.
no he is not abusive in any way, his mother was single dated alot of men when he was small. They and his father abused her in every way, so he saw this and is trying to help us.
he wanted to date and marry a mother because he can't have children. He wanted to be a dad, but now it frightens him.
I think he fears he will become like his father, I tell him it will be alright, but the idea of watching her alone, is unfamiliar to him
Also my parents are making my situation at home worse. My child sees the situation for what it is now, which is what I wanted to avoid
It simply has gotten to the point were it is no longer safe were I am at, I do not feel comfortable at home. I am not permitted to have hobbies outside of the house, and am threatened alot.
I NEED his help but am ashamed that I am incapable of helping myself. Plus last time a man helped me I lost a child I cared deeply for. I have only been with two men, my X, and my now fiance
My parents bring men home introduce them to my child wothout my knowing, take her out of state saying they will go one place but go another instead, I work 5 shifts on the weekends, I need them to watch her, but they have done this several times, and even have prevented me from receving medical insurance.
I cannot afford it. My parents are prominent in the community, and have told me they will devisate me finatailly if I try to leave. I'm Scared. they told me if I sihn over custody they will leave me alone, but I can't loose my daughter to that. Doctors say I need medical insurance, I am not well.
If I leave they will sue. Money I have already paid them, but I have no proof.
Well they refused to give me my bank account records untill I was 22.
I got a loan for the laywer, to remodel thier basement, a coach set
My father paid the bills threw my enternet account
but He lied
He really tranfered the funds to his account and paid everything with his checks
It looks like he paid for everything
and it totals over 10 thousand
he owns the home I live in and threatens to raise my rent if I "missbehave"
my home is close to thier house, he does have a key, so he looks through my things when I am at work
My fiance's mother is an accountant she looked at the "recets" he gave me and told me thousands were missing from the time he had full access
so he stoped giving me recets.
I changed my account access, which pissed him off
I was druged with Zoloft for eight years. I also took antihisamines. Together the combination literally made me crazy. The counciler latter admitted she miss diagnosed me, but it has caused my body alot of damage.
doctors fear it may be permanent, or fatal.
God, I need help.
If I seek help DHS will take her out of the enviornment
my parents will sue
I cannot afford a legal battle at this time, and proving my innocence will land my parents in prison
I am trying
I found a home, took hold of my pay stubs, locked dad out of my account, reported his lack of care for the rental to the rental accociation, still go to college, and put in papperwork for a home loan.
All information concerning the new house is kept secret as to not allow him to raise suspition and raise my rent more
he says I am ungratful.
Appartments are not an option for me, my asthma is too severe.
I have allergitic asthma. I can loose my breath at night. allergic to all plants, cats, dust.
The home I am in is litterally dangerous to me, I need to find a home and put in a hospital grade filtration system
no apartment will allow me to do that.
I have done all that I can, the stress is putting my relationship under strain
I try to make the situatiuion easier for my fiance, not to ask too much, using my credit for the new house, not asking for money even though it is tough, but I fear it may still not be enough
If I could move out without fear of loosing my child, I would have done so years ago...
She is my world, I refuse to let my parents do to her what they have done and are doing to me.
But I can't do it alone, I need help, My fiance = Zack, has been trying soo hard. he finnished school early, got tow jobs at one point to save up money, (but I was too afraid to take it), I love him too much to risk letting money ending our relationship
Now he has a good job, my college is almost done, and the time is right- so why is he pulling away?
If I am to excape I have to be abrupt, and cautious
I don't know how to make it any eaisier than I already have
once i move away, my parents will be in check
I have I am waiting on the home loan to be appoved
Fortunately, Zack's familiy loves me in'laws won't be a problem for me
It is the wait that is killing us
I do have a sence of humor
when I am with him I feel safe, even if I'm in the middle of the mall, or Wal-mart, I feel at home...
I try not to use him as a saftey blanket, but that is the only comfort I Get
outside help would risk loosing my child, what other options do I have?
All I want is to Have control over my own life, to make my own decitions concerning my child, to life and marry the man I love, to have the medical care we need, and most important to provide comfort to Zack the way he does for me...
I am unable to do that untill I move away. Once I no longer rent from my father, I can stand up and fight, but untill that happens, I feel bought and paid for, I am a slave in my own home.
I also am afraid, what if Zack turns on me the way my X did? I have asked to seek councilling once we move. everyone I ever loved or entrusted with my life has failed me, exept Zack, and my daughter.
Please what can I tell him to give him comfort in this difficult time?
That is all I want to know of this entire conversation
Thank you, XXXXX XXXXX what I have been doing. At least I'm doing the right thing.
I did already years ago...I did pay 30 dollars for the service, I wonder do you charge per month or just per session?
Do I have to cancel to avoid a monthly fee? I really can't keep paying past this point, I have spent too much already unfortunatly.
Yes, Thank you.
Well, it is late. I should continue my crochet. My daughter has been asking me to finnish her new blanket + I do need to finnish Grandma's blanket as well.
Thank you for all your time, advice and paitience, it really put my mind more at ease.
Sleep well, wake refreshed, and may the next day treat you sufficiently...