I am sorry for your situation. I can't imagine my son being with such a person and choosing to side with her. My advise usually is to meet with both to create some sort of truce or to contact your son and see if he will see your point enough to look at the problem objectively. He is the common denominator. That means without him nothing will change. You have to get through to him. Make sure he understands that you are not asking him to make a choice but to simply have a relationship with you both. There would have to be some ground rules too. No disrespect in any way. Your solution is in convincing him to resolve this. If she doesn't like you you may have to swallow your pride for awhile. The other choice is to see him when he can go against her wishes and that isn't the choice that makes sense.
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she does not want me in thier life. I can't contact them it goes against my grain because she has no respect for anyone in the end, if you listened to her ricious attitude for 5 years would would know she is different. They never contacted me all this time, they had two weddings, if someone really wanted you intheir life they would have made every atttempt to let me know it was a misunderstanding.... but nothing. My family has written him, he responds that he and his wife are one and it has all been a misunderstanding. He was steering away from religion but all of a sudden quotes the bible, he will need it with her. She believes in science only...which never bothered me...that is my point, i have given and given and had to bit the bullet. How do you forgive such a person she is plain evil and malipuative person and she will never have respect for me she has no respect for anyone...she has stated she hates people. My son was so pure and sweet, it is hard for me to believe he could like someone with this type of thinking. I know it is hard for him to meet women becuase he does not drink or go to clubs and he is not aggressive with people, this one staulked him so she says, they had mutual friends. He settled because he did not want to start over. I am so ashamed of him...he confided in my for all these years...all her faults and his fears with her...i can;t be the bigger person this time around, i should be someone he repects. They may be moving away because of his job, I know in my heart she is so happy because now she will have him to herself..no family where they are going. I guess there is nothing you can say my friends jsut say get therapy and get over it.