Hi and thanks for writing JA
are you there?
hello, i'm here
this is my first time using this
Hi nice to see you
I have read your post
nice to meet you
nice to meet you also
you mentioned you've read the post,
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I am not entirely clear about what you are asking here but after reading your post it appears that your friend changed his mind about you when you had this disagreement
based upon your post that is clear
can you tell us what your question might be?
has he suddenly lost his feelings?
no not at all
it was basically overnight to me
and i dont know what to do
he discovered something about you in your rift that made him question his feelings
do i try to show him more love / have him be 'the man'
no suddenness about it at all
or, give him space ? or ?
I would instead ask yourself what you did to be so off putting?
what did you say or do to make him back up
my mother was very stressed out, and she had made me very upset right previous to his call
he called after that,
and, as i tried to tell him what happened,
okay so what did you do or say to make him back up?
he said that i was being reckless in suddenly deciding to move his country with him so soon
are you there
he was the one who asked me
he asked me a few months ago
but in his memory, now he imagines that it was last year,
but my guess is that your mother angered you and you told him you were ready to move right away?
is this possible?
he is supposed to come to meet her in two weeks
we have a trip planned together
its unclear again what you are asking
and, i told him that if he is serious,
it would be good to tell my mom
okay and you had a verbal disagreement and he backed off
so she can calm down about it
and you have still not said why?
why did he back off
from that point,
because you said something to him that caused it
as i typed,
i told him that if he was serious about me moving to him,
he might want to talk to my mom about it
why did he back off?
i dont know
what did you say to him to cause him to not want you anymore?
he started bringing up past arguments and saying now he wasnt sure
talk to your mom about what?
about me moving to him
so far this is not making a lot of sense
I can understand that you are very upset indeed
so might you wish to take some time on this?
why dont you take some more time on this?
we started arguing because i was already upset, asked him to tell my mother about his intentions on my moving to his country. then he started to try to back off from it
I ask you questions about this but you are not responding rationally
let me rephrase
or not intertwine answers or questions
I think maybe you should take some time to relist this question when you are feeling calmer
from my question which was 'is he
is there someone else here I can speak with?
your question is available for all to see. The response to your qestion is that he heard or saw somethng in your disagreement that made him change his mind about you. When I tried to explore this with you you were not able to respond to questions appropriately and instead kept talking about other issues not related to your question. Please take some time to calm down and relax so another expert can help you and you can respond appropriately; Good Luck and best wishes to you. Cathy
Should I just wait here?