So there is probably little or no hope that he would realize how special and rare our connection is (because again, it's not like we just met), and want to see where it goes?
Sorry, I know you're not psychic or able to read his mind :)
I do agree with that, I've thought about that too. He's so focused on how much more money he'll be making...he's already making great money. I want him to consider his priorities in life. I guess I'm hoping he'll go and it won't work out for whatever reasond and he'll come back. Then there wouldn't be that looming question of "what if" about the job. Hmm I'm sounding like a hopeless romantic setting myself up for a big letdown.
Plus, that sounds so selfish of me.
I'm just feeling very expendible (sp?), and it surprises me that I don't mean enough to him for him to stay.
I see what you're saying. I definitely don't think that we would stop talking to each other. We haven't discussed whether I'll go visit, etc. probably b/c he still hasn't received the official offer, so we'll cross that bridge when we get to it I suppose. I'm afraid to ask him if the decision is harder for him than it appears, because I'm honestly afraid of what that answer might be. I know that men, typically, aren't as open with their emotions as women. So even though he appears to be having no problem with it, in reality he could be struggling with it...? Am I grasping at straws here?
There is a good possibility of that in your last reply. Thank you for pointing that out.
I guess the fact that he hasn't even remotely wanted to stop seeing me since he learned of this possibility is good, right? He acts as though he's not going, in fact I kind of forget about it when we're together, then it hits me again. Can you give me any insight on that? Either he figures 'hey, why be lonely while I'm still here' (which would not be good), or he has no intention of ending things with me after he moves-?
Anything I can do, either obvious or covert, that could help him consider making his personal life as much of a priority as his professional life?
I'm not sure how I can model that behavior...? Make him a priority you mean?
Great advice, you're right. It's hard to be supportive but I can do it - I have to.
A girl can only hope :) Maybe the distance from me, and the loneliness he will inevitably experience at first will bring things into perspective.
Thank you very much!