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Hello, first let me say that you are not crazy and you have every right to be upset as these interactions between your husband and his exes are inappropriate.
I would also like to say that I'm very concerned that your husband hits you, you deserve to be in an abuse free relationship.
It sounds like your husband has an aggressive/violent past and this is not healthy for you or your children. I know you said that you have no friends or family in the UK but if it's possible, you should try to reach out for help to an agency that assists women and their children who are in abusive situations.
Based on the information you've provided, I'm gathering that your family is in India, if you are close with them, you need to tell them what is going on so that you can figure out what's going to be best for you and your children. That may mean returning to India to be with your family and away from this man who is hurting you. I don't know if you work or if you're a stay at home mother but I do feel very strongly that you should not have to deal with this type of behavior. You're not overreacting and your husband needs to seek help for his domestic issues as this seems to be a pattern for him.
It doesn't sound like your husband respects you or your marriage and that's an issue. You've been together for 10 years and you've given him 3 lovely children and I can't seem to find anything that he's given you in return based on the information you've provided. You deserve to be treated better than this.
hi thankyou for ur reply yes my family is in india and they know but they say tat i am married to t man so try to work tings out he is a good father n also treats me good only his drinking makes him mad .
hi thankyou for your reply yes my family is in india and they have seen what happened and all they say is worke ur marriage i cannot go back to live there wid them not tat they wont have me it is tat my kids are born in uk n study here another thing my husband is a good man he a good father n treats me fine but wen he drinks it is a problem .
hi thank you for ur reply i have my family in india and they know about all tat i am going through but well they think t indian way and say work ur marriage my husband is a good father n also treats me good only wen he drinks and this problem wid his ex is always there and wen i ask y is she bringing t past he gets angry saying i am wid u 24/7 how can i have any thing for her can u tell me does all women get angry wid there husband if they talk personal things or is it me .pls advise me i know t beating is not right outer than getting out of this marriage can i get him help or do u think tat i can get help from t mesg i sent u wat do u think .my view was i told him talking about t past will only bring back t memories and start a feeling between yourl n he says tat i am t only one who thinks like tat pls advise
He has to want to get help. In addition, if he can't control his anger when drinking, he should consider not drinking. If he becomes violent with you, there's no sure way of knowing that he won't become totally out of control one day and become violent with your children. You should talk with him about seeking help because this is not a healthy cycle. Again, your thoughts are not off base and his interactions with his exes are completely inappropriate. The only thing he should really be talking with his ex wife about are the children nothing more about what could've been between them as that time has passed, it's disrespectful to you and to your marriage. I think you should also seek outside support be it a support group or something along those lines.
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thankyou it really helped me ur answers as i was thinking that i was off board in t way i was thinking i am going to a support group and it dont help but will try talking to him thankyou god bless you as t work u do is great