thank you for your answer but, am not fully satisfied.
i wrote in my question, that, this man nevr had children with any ex women in his life. And that his first ex had an abortion, thats why she is so clingy, and he feel responsable for her unghappiness in life, also he is saying, that he doesn twont to get together with her as a couple, but just friends.And i just htink that keeping her all this yeasr next to him, he is not doing anygood to her , ( she could meet another men and find love) , this will never be good to him, because its sterssfull and unhealthy for his present or any future relatinships. he saying he is kind, to me - its been cruel in teh way... do you think i should tell him am not allowinh him to go again on holliday to her place, because i was expecting him to go with us..... Am also not stoping him of her staying at his [place all the time sh eis in the country, but sugesting that he will involove me to come and be around, but he refusing and its akward, because, when she is her for 2-3 weeks, he is there with her solid, i cant call or turne over there. Dont you think its crazy and unhealthy? Dont you think its not enough keep of him begging me to trust him, and stay away, and keep this two separate realtionships alive ?