We have tried the family meetings and as long as everyone agrees to what my sister and her husband decide to have for rules, everything goes fine. It's when my kids just want to say something or myself when all hell breaks loose.
The shouting match the other day was the results of agreeing to an 'adult council session' when the kids were heading to bed. That's when they both decided to yell at me because I don't make my kids to all they tell them to after I've already told them to do something I want my own kids to do. They all pull their weight, cleaning house and cleaning the yard while her kids play with each other or the neighborhood kids.
I'm just at a loss. It's the silent treatment and 'let's pretend they don't exist' behavior they have that's driving me and my kids to tears.