To fully explain my situation, this is a second marriage for each of us. Both were married for 20 yrs, divorced and now married for 18 yrs together. I love her but feel she "likes" me but our marriage is more of one of convenience for her. She never had money, taught school and raised her children with an abusive husband. I am safe, nice to her and able to provide whatever she wants financially. She is leaving for Scotland without me in a week (she travels with friends who have money). I stay home and work as my work does not allow that kind of time to travel. Thus my concern that she is volunerable to another man's advances as she feels part of our trouble is her inability to turn me on. My real question is, should I give her approval to do whatever she wants or should I tell her I understand and if it happens, it happens. I think she has had affairs before on these yearly trips. She admits that her friends have but says she has not.