I definitely understand your feelings. You looked forward to this time when you would be without your obligation to them. Although I understand his feelings that they are his children, the fact that this loan could be a burden to the family has to be considered. At the very least, I would not feel obligated to sign my name to a big loan. He needs to compromise. Maybe he signs a smaller loan on his own or whatever compromise you come up with as a couple. This should be a compromise between the two of you not asking you to sign a loan when they are almost adults. I hope he can see your position.
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