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It might sound unkind, but even without knowing what was discussed in your first answer, I'd point out that when a divorce with children and custody involved is still fresh, presumably less than 2 years old, the emotional upheavals emanating from that epicenter are bound to dominate over any other emotional bonding. So at present you really don't have the power to pull him away from the quagmire he's in to live in the safe haven you want to have together with him. I get the impression that your own divorce is either further away in time or devoid of unresolved struggles & children, or both. He has needed you as a healer for him, perhaps you've gotten some of the same healing from him.
But in a healing relationship relief from loss and compassion as well as rescued-passion are so thoroughly mixed, that what seemed the hottest ever just last week can be cold and somehow embarrassing today. For the original tragic losses have taken over again and the new love scene that you want him to nestle in with you seems a distraction that he now doesn't need or want, even tho before he did as much as you still do.
I can't see straight. 2 hour talk with my brother in LA from midnight on, very much needed financial relief.