Thankyou for your direct and honest response .I have no problem with accepting the truth and in fact wording my question and getting your response has helped me to really look at this whole ridiculous situation and I feel a real conviction that I have truly been foolish and manipulated for way too long . You were right about me having "worked him out" but that was only part of the problem. I have obviously not wanted him completely out of my life , and I think I have been wanting him to make the contact so I can still see him. I needed verification from a professional about the next step . I do feel that just hanging up on him would be one option( probably the best way with a man like him),but would a carefully worded email listing the reasons I don't want him in my life anymore give me satisfaction and closure and make it perfectly clear to him that I am onto his manipulating, rude behaviour and also force him to look at himself and hopefully learn something .For many reasons I have given him so much rope and have held off really expressing my true feelings about his disrespectful actions.There is no question that he will try to contact me and he could easily appear at my work place where it would be difficult for me to be composed and express to him how I feel .What do you think about me sending the email? Thanks for your help.