Fair enough. I can understand that. And I agree, I think its the best appraoch. My problem is that I think I may have closed the door on communication. I had come back from my trip and wanted some sort of an answer and she wasn't making any effort to see me. When I got the text I went the knee jerk reaction route and told her that she wasn't who I had thought she was and I didn't want to see her anymore. I was hurt obviously. I usually don't let my emotion get the best of me, but in the situation I find myself invested for the first time and given the duration of the feelings, I guess I reached a breaking point. She's in school right now and has only 4 days a week when I can actually see her (she is away in another country for school). The rest of the time she is working. I don't want to stress her out, but I feel like if I don't do something to at least get closure, or at least talk to her I can't move on. I don't want to get walked over, and I'm willing to be the understanding friend, but I don't know how to win back that chance after telling her I couldn't see her anymore.