This is always a tricky situation. You can date but you have to stop with trying to control every aspect of the situation. If you need to be overwhelmingly protective then don't date. It's not fair to him. If you don't want them introduced to several guys, then have the babysitter or provider take the children out for ice cream or find sitter where you take them there. If you can't leave them then don't date. Or meet the person at a restaurant where you can talk over a meal. No one is going to date if they have to meet you in the park. You can't maintain this bubble and have romance. It doesn't happen. You can't relinquish someone to the park and want physical affection. It's up to you but you are not being fair. If you have a long term relationship the children would need to respect that
You don't know for sure about pedophiles but you will know when they gravitate to being excessively attenttive to the children. Check the Sex Offender Registry first
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This wasn't very helpful - I am concerned about the affect of any of this on my children - I don't see my actions as being 'overwhelminly protective' as you put it. I believe putting my children first would make me a good mother.
I am happy to put dating on hold if the children will be negatively affected by it - as for being unfair to a potential date - they are not my priority - my children are. You have made no reference to how children of this age could be affected - if at all?
And you have not helped at all regarding their father coming to visit. Perhaps you are not the right person to help me at this time.
I am also concerned that you do not know how to spell paedophile.