I do appreciate you telling me he loves me, he does enjoy living with me at my house. He is good to me in his way. He buys most of the groceries, and starts dinner. He does get home from work about 3 hrs before I do. He has been involved with my family events, most receiently was my mother's funral. But he does not want me to attend his family events. I have met 2 of his 5 siblings shortly after we met, and been with his 25 yr old daughter on 2 occaisions, June, she came to my house to go on a rafting trip. Now his daughter is getting married in 3 weeks, and most of his family will be at attendance. I am not understanding why he will not even talk about why he doesn't want me to attend. I feel like he does not want me to be a part of one of the most important events in his daughters life. I would just like to share in his joy, I feel very disapointed he doesn't want to share this with me.
Hello again Deardebra
I guess I can understand somewhat, I do know he has a very proud feeling for himself, and he has done some wrong things in his past. I know his family does have strong feelings for all the family, close knit, spread over the US. Getting together seldom, mostly because of distance. So the idea about him being uncomfortable with his family opinion could be the issue. I just know how much this wedding day does mean a great deal to him, asking me my opinion on issues about the wedding. I guess this issue of being uncomfortable about what they think of women he chooses to spend time with.
I just got off the phone with his sister, I met 2 yrs ago. He is taking her a yorkshire terrier I raised, to live with her in Colorado. So I insisted I needed to talk to them about my puppy to do a smooth transfer. I now have a little more contact, but very controlled on his side. I wonder if I should not talk about the wedding, "It is a big deal", and just let it go! He know how much it would mean to me to be included.
Thank you for your thought!
I was expecting another response to the statements I asked about. I am still very unsertain about the messages he sends me. Most of the time I am translating the mixed messages he sends me. Cooking dinner for me, and starting the fire to warm the house. Then in a conversation later it will come out we are "roommates", don't expect more. He has never said he loves me, or reach over and kiss me. I am NOT his "sole mate". This makes me wonder what this relationship is about and how can I make it better?
Thank you for your opinion