This isn't about makeup or trying to get his attention. This is about you getting better. What you are doing is testing him and it is making you crazy. That is why it isn't good to do. He may love adore and need you, but he may just not need to say it. Men and women are conditioned differently. They don't always need or even know how to say it. You have a sort of fairy tale concept of love. That until you get more realistic is going to make it difficult to have a positive relationship. It puts too many demands on the other person.
As far as your comment regarding your emotional well being, he may not be rejecting you. He may be saying it is okay because he wants you to get better. He may actually be thinking of your needs rather than getting rid of you. He may feel that you will come back happier and wants you to be happy. You see it as rejection. when really it is the opposite.
You get love and affection by being you = not trying to impress him or dressing up. He will do this because he loves you. It is up to you if you feel this is forever. People can't give 100% every day. They have to be emotional over time. If you are not careful you are going to put too much pressure on a partner
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but what do i do now? last night when i brought up the subject of my feelings being hurt by what we disscussed he got annoyed and walked off to the living room to sleep, i followed him out there and demanded to know why he sends me texts all day being sweet but then shocks me when i get home by acting like he isnt head over heels for me, arent couples who are inlove supposed to be kissing and cuddling all the time? he walks by me sometimes and doesnt even notice if im there,like im invisivble,last night when e got angry with me following him out to the living to talk he yelled "my gosh,leave me alone,you disgust me, everything about you is annoying and im so OVER it,you are making me hate my life,you disgust me with your negativity and clinglyness,everything u say is a complaint,EVERY day you fight with me".. now what do i do?? i JUST want attention from him!! what do i do to make him swoon over me like i do over him, HOW do i get him to VALUE me?? i feel like im really not that important to him in his life and when i bring it up he gets mad and says im starting fights,i think i share to much of my feelings with him and burden him,but WHATCAN I DO to make him VALUE me again,and Want to be around me more often, i cant run off to tampa every weekend we fight and run to my parents house for thr weekends, i just want him to treat and love me and be affectionate with me the way we used to be before we hit our bumpy roads with my depression/anxiety,i want to NOT be invisible,i dont want to look PATHETIC and DESPERATE for him, i want him to want me around and to value me.
PLEASE give me advice on what i can do to get those things and get back on track
p.s it feels like he doesnt look at me anymore,he says he is still inlove with me,and hes forgiven me for starting fights,but ive been putting myself down even when im right,just to not cause an arguement,he is stubborn and prideful,but when we are happy its like heaven to me, i fee like im seriously slowly loosing him, WHAT CAN I DO to get back on the right track to make our relationship a better and happier one where feel loved and valued, keep n mind i dont know anyone here but him,no frends here yet. please tell me what i can do and give me advice to get him to value and look at me like a beautiful strong woman again
depression has been very tough on me,and i know on him as well, i know im not ugly,but i feel like im not impressing him, i dress very cute now, i wear my makeup perfect,i buy perfume,everything i can think of to get him to notice me.i JUST want the man i fell in love with to come back to me,he and i are perfect for eachother we have a very good chance for a very good and happpy future together,i just need ur advice and help to get back on the happy track we were on before my depression and anxiety hit me.i need help and need you to tell me what i need to do to get his attention/love and affecton, like i said before im not the kind of girl to cheat,especially on him.but i am desperate for those feelings of love and admiration and i want it from HIM.how do i get my self esteen back since i lost it during depression, i just never feel like im enough for him or he is proud of me, ive done everything i could think of, im desperate for you to please help me by tellling me what i can do to win his love/affection/admiration and respect back,please help me
i forgot to add that since ive been giving in all the time even when im not wrong i think he sees im desperate and lost all me woman strength, i can totally tell im his puppett now because he knows i dont want to loose him,so even if he is way out of line,curses me out and treats me bad i will always submit and try to find ways to blame it on me, now since ive been doing that i see him more and more each day rising up on his pedastol lookin down on me,its almost like he can cuss at me and yell at me for leaving a bedroom light on and god forbid if i argue back "he is always in the right and has the upper hand" now its gotten to the point where i have no self esteem and when we fight i will say sorry and blame it on me just to end the fight,and when i say sorry,and "i love you" he will look at me and sya nothing and when i say" will you say i love you back please?" he gets all high and mighty and says "nah,ill say it when i feel like it. so basically i feel like his doormat and i will always suffer the consequences of my past (with being dramatic and causing arguements) please help me. tell me what to do with everything i am typin,it took me a long time to type it so please do your best to adress all my questionns on needing advice thanks