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well i am here
Hi nice to see you
how are you doing tonight?
I am alright. how are you doing ma'm?
I am fine thanks for asking and I have read your post
and I want you to know that you are not dumb
You hooked up with a not so nice guy
and he took advantage of you and your good heart
well thank you. I just felt dumb that I did not know he has a fiancée
you are s o not dumb
yea he lied to you by omission
that is my problem i always hook up with wrong guys i.e. the guy who got me pregnant and went to jail and i had to give my kid up for adoption because i was looking out for his best interest. that is the main reason i do not trust people easily.
you have to figure out why you shoot so low when it comes to guys no?
did he take you out to dinner first date?
buy you roses?
no none of those
make you feel very special
so why did you fall in love?
all he wanted was sex
you sound to me like a nice lady?
so you gave in?
I am sure you have other qualities than sex, I have only talked to you for two minutes
no i did not give in. i was 18 at the time and was just being a stupid teenager.
and already I know you are smart and thoughtful
okay that was him what about this new guy?
i met him on a dating a website and the guy lied to me saying he could never get a girl pregnant and on his picture he looked younger than he actually looked
okay get that
I get that
so why didnt he take you out to dinner?
the new guy i dated him for a couple months then he broke it off with me because he ended up in another state and a year later i heard from him saying he had to leave atlanta because his best friend committed suicide and he just needed to be away which i understand. a year later i heard from him and he said he was back in atlanta and we hung out and i was starting to fall for him again and he told me he loved me and would never hurt me and he took me out to dinner and we just talked and watched movies, played basketball.. just did usual dating things. he was the first guy i actually ever loved. he made me feel special and i can be myself around him..
I want so much to buy it
I really do
but I think you deserved more
and he should work to be with you.
I think you need to demand more from your men
and the reason you keep getting hurt
is that you do not
what do you mean by demading more?
You need to make them court you, to win you over
they need to earn you
in other words
you give it up too easily
you are a smart lady
why do you do this?
you dont have to?
and I bet you are pretty too?
I bet you are.
that is why i just have guys called "f**k buddies" with no strings attached (excuse my language)
you dont need them either
you need a real man
i have time though. i am only 21
what did your mom tell you?
did your mom ever talk to you?
the only time i talked to my mom is when she met the father of my kid. she did not like him at all because she thought he was very sketchy
so can you and I talk about this?
i talk to my friends about this kind of things
as weird as it may seem, it is easier to talk to a stranger about it
I am sure you have good friends who give you good advice
but heres the thing
do you have a name first name
dont give me your full name
just your first name please
Look Reid, you have every right to feel special and to have a man in your life who is solid and safe for you and who loves and cherishes you
and you dont have to have sex with him right away
he must wine and dine you
yes he must win you over
You must do that
I just think i have this thing for bad boys, if that makes sense?
yea a lot of us do
but you have a choice?
and because you have a child and you are a MOM
I want you think this one through carefully please
i gave my kid up for adoption though and he is in a great home
I am so so sorry
You did what you thought was right,
did the best thing for your baby \
i was looking out for what would be in his best interest. don't be sorry, i am happy because i still keep in contact with the adoptive parents and he is in a great and loving home and that is all that matters to me
I think you did a very selfless thing Reid. You have my admiration on this
very hard to do
You are special.
now on to men
you have to start finding better men
men worthy of you girl
not these dopes who are not worthy of you
are you in college or working?
I think you want to be loved so badly that you give it all up too soon
do you think you can wait longer for a better guy?
well of course i know i get attached easily and yeah i can wait.. it is hard though
You dont understand that the guys you settle for are settles
and not at all what you deserve
so you get hurt
when they treat you badly
okay I have an idea and you let me know what you think Reid
I think you should date a guy for three dates before you sleep with him
and he should have bought you dinner at least one time
do you think you can do that where you live?
can you do this?
and can you cook?
yes i can do it and to the cooking.
okay three dates Reid
one for coffee
he buys you a good dinner next, no kfc
and then the third date you cook him dinner
and then after the third date
alright i can do that.
NO MATTER HOW LONELY YOU ARE
you can decide if you want to sleep with him or not
i just like sex, i know there is nothing wrong with it, but i will try to do it.
we all like sex Reid
but our mission is to get you a decent guy
but it is hard to not have that urge to do it
you can hold off girl
three dates and one dinner from you before you even go there
:) let me know what you think Reid