He already knows that I am horribly hurt by not including me. I don't even want to spend any time there now. He also informed me that I can't smoke in the "cabin". (We both smoked when we met. He quit about 10 yrs. ago...sincerely, good for him). So by this statement he's telling me that this is his place, not ours. He's been using it for himself and his friends and not telling me. This doesn't sound like I'm included to me. So as to your suggestion that we need to find a task to do together, at this point it holds no water. I've obviously been excluded.