I'm reading your question right now and will respond to you about this situation in just a few moments..... thank you.
I can understand why you are feeling confused about this.
It sounds like he started to ignore you when you approached him about talking of the relationship? Can you tell me what you said to him or what was asked to him or discussed just before he pulled away from you? This will help me to understand the situation fully.
I was not sure about our status.So, when we discussed our age he found out that i am alder.I said i had ex bf's that are younger than me and he said he had very young gf too. Then he said i look young. I told him yeah, i had a 20 year old guy asking me for date.He asked what i told him i said i told him i wasn't ready for relationship(i didn't know the status of our relationship that's why i coudn't say i have a boyfriend....i wasn't ready to call him boyfriend because i thought i would push him away this way). Then he asked when did it happen and i said couple of weeks ago....means just a beginning of our relationship. I am sure there were several mistakes i did mostly because i was saying things i shoudn't have said. Therefore i wanted to talk to him but he just decided and won't give another chance. We had harmony passion and so much in common.
But may be main thing is different purpose...i want to have family now(still i could've waited untill he is ready for family)...Could everything go different if i have acted defferent....I felt he was in Love and may be he felt hurt and didn't want to do it again. But i had my feelings hurt too...i still wanted to work on this relationship because i haven't felt this nice feeling bout anyone for a long time.I still think he is very nice guy but a bit weak. And thing that he just leaves without explaining or telling anything is very weird.
Okay thanks for the additional information.
It sounds like what happened is that you are older than he is, which surprised him. You are also probably much more mature emotionally and most importantly you two are in different life stages. Even though you said you would wait for him to have a family, it's possible that he would not be ready for such a step for a long, long time.
I don't think that things would have gone differently had you acted otherwise, or not tried to talk to him. Why do I say that...because the way that he has handled this by just ignoring you completely and pulling away without any kind of discussion, etc. does show that he does not have good communication skills. He is immature in this area and so I believe you would have had issues going forward about discussing and understanding, compromise etc.
So don't second guess yourself or feel that you did something wrong here. You didn't do anything wrong.
If he continues to just ignore you, I would stop contacting him altogether and just let him be. Also, in the future it will be helpful when you first meet someone that you are dating to talk about what your ages are, etc. so there are no surprises down the road.
In summary, you did nothing wrong in trying to talk about the relationship and he really should have been more open with you, rather than just ignoring you. Please click ACCEPT so I'm credited for my help today. And feel free to continue the discussion with me, even after clicking ACCEPT. Thank you.
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