Have Relationship Questions? Ask a Counselor for Answers ASAP
Hi thanks for writing JA
are you there customer?
hi there nice to see you
how are you doing today?
Thank you I am good.
may I ask how old you are?
okay and you work and your boss is in love with you?
and you with she?
Yes, I volunteer full time and we have a mutual connection.
is that about the gist of this
okay so you arenot really an employee of hers you are a volunteer?
Yes a volunteer
now are there other places you can volunteer where you live?or just there
where she works?
Well I love what the ministry is doing and I care about their mission. I love where I am working and I like and feel comfortable where I am.
oh yes I can imagine
What does that mean.
but workplace relationships are not a good idea for the most part
if things end badly its a problem
if it goes well it can be a problem so we usually advise against them if possible
that is what she felt was a problem and I am wondering if that is why everything is being kept
professional. But then I wonder if I am just a convenience.
yes she can be accused of sexual harrassment and lose her job if she is a paid employee
Well she has not even suggested anything. It is a mutual attraction.
the other piece I find odd is that she wants you to move in with her and you have not spent any time with her outside of the work place?
okay I see
I am beginning to understand more now
Well she is a very caring person and she is worried about me and she has been helpful as far as supporting my efforts. even trying to find a job.
you know it is unclear to me what is going on
does she wish to be your caretaker?
or is this a romance?
That is what I am not sure of.
yea it is certainly muddy
can you ask her? are you ever alone with her so that you can ask her?
what she has in mind?
Yes, but I am afraid I will overstep the boundries.
oh by asking her?
I dont think so
just by having a conversation with her is fine
just ask her
why do you want me to live with you?
Ok so you think I need to clarify what she is thinking?
oh my yest
This is not clear at all
and dont worry about boundaries
you need to be able to communicate
so talking is fine
OK, I know it isn't and I feel like it goes back and forth. That is why I am confused.
have a nice chat with her and figure out what is going on first
good luck to you on this
be well and good luck