Hello, Hannah, I am here for you, and your question is not silly at all. You have clearly thought a great deal about the problems in your marriage and your feelings, and this is a very good thing. It is understandable that at this point you are very confused and cannot figure this out on your own. I strongly suggest that you find a psychotherapist who can help your sort through your feelings about all of this and make a decision about what to do. You may go to http://www.bacp.co.uk/ to find a psychotherapist in your area of Britain. Your asking this very thoughtful question shows me that you desire help in sorting all of this out. I hope you will take my advice and find a therapist. If I have answered your question, please remember to click on the green accept button so that I will be credited for my professional time. If no, chat back and I will respond. I wish you healing and a restored faith in yourself. Take care, Eleanor
I am not very satisfied with the answer am afraid
I would like to work with another expert if possible. I dont very much believe in therapists thus the reason for me coming on this site :) i am sorry.
I agree with the expert that you should find a therapist in your area. The confusion you describe as she said can be addressed so that you don't feel so alone and they will help you make an informed decision. What you describe as confusion can simply be a host of emotions coming at you regarding several concerns, - your marriage, your job etc.
Don't fear therapy. As far as your relationship, I don't think you are being unfair regarding the finances. You just want an equal partnership. Lots of career women want this same thing. Sometimes when women feel they are doing more, sharing more, or providing more they begin to feel resentful. This imbalance causes feelings of resentment. This sounds like part of your problem.
There may be hope for you as a couple but that is really your decision. Sex should not be the best part of a relationship. You should have different deeper benefits such as trust, honesty, integrity, companionship, etc. If these things are lacking then you need to decide if it is worth saving and get professional help. If you know in your heart it isn't then you have no choice but to voice these concerns to your partner and take it from there.
This decision is not for either of your family's benefits. You need to have a discussion like none you have had before. Figure out where you want this relationship to be in the future. If you don't see one, tell him as much