She loves you and misses you but she can't come right out and say it because she would look so foolish. Of course she is also afraid of being hurt again. Don't ask her questions like "why did you really call" because they give her no way to save face or to feel some level of protection. If you,re interested in getting her back, better to acknowledge that you hurt her and acknowledge how stupid you were and ask her to consider forgiving you. Let her know that you know it will take time to heal and to trust again and that you are willing to see if that can happen and you hope she is too. The other guy is just a "I will show him" thing, but don't ever tell her that or it could backfire on you big time. If you love her, eat humble pie, become loyal to her and give her encouragement and when needed some space to heal. Lots of couples recover from things like this but not without considerable pain. Good luck and let me know how it goes.
I went out on her bc I needed a break. It was a day after she busted me. When she left the day I broke it off, I knew I made a mistake. I wish I would have never done what I did, But I cant take my mistake back. I have been apogizling for two months. Every time i think we are getting better she brings that back up. I would never do it again. I realized that she is the love of my life. So you wouldn't term it as a boyfriend? Its so weird we have been best friends for 20 years. We have both been divorced! We have been dating for almost a year. Than one stupid nite I mess up, and than a week later she is talking to someone else. I just don't get it. We have so much history... Can she throw that all away? So yesterday as soon as she gets off work she calls me, tells me about her day and everything. Talked on the phone for 30 mins. Than when I texted her, it was back to short and brief. So iam at her mercy? Iam I reading to much into all of this? I know she loves me, but she is so scared of me hurting her again.