That is not going to be an option we have split and probably won't get back together over this. I did try to get her to go to my son's birthday this is the third time i tried to get her to go to something that all my kids and my ex would be there and break the ice with my ex. She would not do it. I think I have tried to do it her way and it is hard because of my long standing friendship with my ex. My girlfriend thinks that the relationship my ex and I have is not normal. It took me a long time to figure it out also but I did it is better for all if ex's get a long. I am frustrated and I think damm another relationship gone.
I guess I am grieving for the loss but I am also looking for assurance I guess that I did what I could and that I don't have to feel guilty about lossing her.
Am I wrong with all of this?
I thank you for your insight in this matter! I am feeling better about this now but the hurt is difficult to deal with as you are aware. I can't believe that my girlfriend could not accept this. It hurts! I get angy about this and hurt deeply. I think your correct and I have lost the relationship that wouldn't work anyway but I tried. Do you think I should let it go and not accept her opinion on this matter and leave it be and move on.When you say that if she finds my family distasteful do you mean that about my kids and my ex wife being together on birthdays, and other occasions. Does it make a difference with there age they are 28,24 and 14. they still are my kids! sorry to take up so much of your time i am triing to find answers and I am frustrated with the fact that my girlfriend tried to make it my fault that we broke up and blames me. I don't think it is and let her know that she had to fit into my life as well as i had to fit into hers. She has two ex's also and she don't talk to them and they don't go to birthday parties for there kids and she thinks i should of done the same. Life sometimes can be a challenge.
You mean I have been doing a normal thing by staying friends with my ex and accepting the fact that this is the best way to handle this. Like I said it took me a long time to figure this out but allot of people don't understand and think it is an odd relationship to have. People think that you have to leave someone behind to move forward why can't it be both ways. I mean i know that my ex are just friends and will always be i would think that if I were to start another relationship with someone that they will not understand and here we go again. I will definitley will make it known the next time this is what I am and have some baggage that will follow me. I thank you again it puts my mind at ease a bit and now to get over it
I am finding it very hard to handle my breakup and feel like there will not be anyone else.How can I deal with this better i know only time can heal but what do u do inthe mean time