Sorry I have not been on the computer in a few days and just received your reply. Can you clarify being direct with him about the relationship to ask him direct and make sure I am clear about the contact. I really don't know what to say. How do I say it?
Also, can you tell me what you think when he answered me that we do have a relationship. How am I supposed to take that for I really don't understand what kind of relationship we have since he only answered "yes" when I asked him if we have any kind of a relationship. Thank you.
By being direct I mean getting to the bottom of things once and for all. When people are in a relationship and one wants more than the other it can lead to hurt feelings and a lot of speculation. Try - I am not trying to pressure you, but I really need to know where we stand. (Don't say i need to know where this is going - that will turn him off.) I will be there to stand by you but I don't want to feel that I am investing too much in this and you are not ready to do the same. I am not asking about marriage I just want to know I am not wasting my time.
I agree also that just answering "yes" is not very encouraging. It was a positive response but that could mean almost anything. That to has to ve clarified - I know you said that we have a relationship but what kind? I would suggest that you ask first about above ; that will tell you what you need to know. If he still says his children are his focus that's great. But children don't need all your attention. The part of your heart that needs romantic love has nothing to do with your children.
I am starting to realize what you are saying. As I stated in my original question to you above. He enlisted in the army 23 years ago and he also said that he hasnt had a relationship since then. Do you think this may have a bearing on our situation as well?
Sorry for not responding sooner. When you say that he may be unaware that he is sending mixed messages when he has not been focused on a woman's needs for some time. Can you define that. He was married for the last 15 yrs. but says he really hasn't been in a real relationship in 23 yrs. when he enlisted in the army. Lastly, Do you think it's possible that he could have been on an emotional rollercoaster when he reconnected with me and really didn't mean to tell me that he was in love with me. For I haven't received a text nor a phone call in almost a week.
Now I haven't heard from him since January 12th. I sent him a message last night that read "Hey, I havent' heard from you. Guessing that your not ok. I'm starting to worry. I just want to remind you that I do care and am concerned. I am still here for you.
He has not responded. Very upset!!!!!!
What next?? I need to know where I stand? Do you think that is his way of saying goodbye to me. This is the first time that he never responded to a text message from me. I think I need some closure.