Thank you for contacting Just Answer. I am sorry for the way you are feeling. I don't know how old you are. However, nevertheless, I think you need to take it easy. Give it some more time, see where it goes. You will know sooner rather than later if he is just using you for sex. Give it some time.
yes i'm here
you might think i'm young but i'm not...I'm 28 going to be 29 next month
Oh, you're still young.
Let's take a look at all the details.
He sees you twice a week and the majority of the weekends.
Yes, but I feel like he's doing it because he has nothing better to do and we do have a lot of fun but i'm just tired of feeling like I"m not worth the title
He is telling you he wants to take it day by day. He is not ready to make a commitment.
he does make me feel like he likes me a lot but again he doesn't pay for me like most guys would do and he never really asks me out...he'll just somewhat mention it...never directly saying, lets do this!
yeah thats true
So now lets look at some of the other issues.
how long should i wait for him to be ready? how long is too long?
He doesn't complement you.
no he doesn't...a friend once said he said I looked good one night but that was to my guy friend but he never compliments me directly
He is talking to other girls on FB --- about what --- are they just friends or do you sense something else?
no nothing is happening i know that but he does compliment
might sound high schoolish but he still has his ex's picture on fb along w me but usually if ur over someone you'll take it off...im just wondering if i should just be friends w him only until he figures out what he really wants
Now, what does it mean that he doesn't want to call you his girlfriend? Did you ask him what you are? Just because you are his girlfriend doesn't mean you are engaged so why does he not want to call you his girlfriend?
Does he say what he wants?
he told me he never had any of his exes force him to be in a relationship with him and his only response is that he wants to take it day by day...he once told me 4 months prior that he wasn't ready so i understood but now that we are constantly together and hanging out i want more than just being friends. He said that he doesn't want to get into a relationship and then have it peak out and we break up and wondering if thats just an excuse not to be with me. He said im the only one he is seeing and he's not one to sleep around when he's sleeping with someone already...
I think what you need to say to him is I understand that you are not ready to make any commitments to anything more serious. However, if you can't even call me your girlfriend when I am spending all this this time with you and you are telling me that you are not having sex with anybody else then please explain to me what you would call this relationship.
Thank you Dr. Schaye...Its hard for me to communicate to him and he would always beg me to talk to him but I think I will go that route when the right time persists.
I think you should give it some time but if doesn't move from his present position then it's time for you to move on.
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thank you Dr. Schaye. Have a great day!