Hi JA customer and thanks for writing.
Your post is so refreshing and good for you for getting out there and meeting some nice men. I am so pleased for you.
Here is one plan you can consider and you can let me know if this is palatable for you or not. I would tell man number one that you would like to remain on friendly terms but that you would also like to pursue man number two. Either man number one will say yes or no but either way you have been honest and upfront and will have no issues with your conscience.
Its your life no one elses and while I am sure you do not wish to harm anyone you cannot live your life simply to please others. If you are honest but also kind and sensitive you should be able to navigate your way through this.
Let me know what you think?