Hello my name is Angela.
I am more than happy to assist you with your questions by giving you my honest and respectful opinion.
I read over our previous exchanges as well as your most current post and it appears that he is emotionally unavailable to be with you in the manner that you desire especially since you have laid your cards out on the table and he still chose not to give you a sincere answer along with constantly wanting to still you under a veil of vagueness. The sure why not....let's see each other again.......is a vague and unemotional answer which is consistent with a man who is not emotionally available to you, click here
to read more about this for informational purposes. Check your library to see if it has the following book which can also help you understand his behavior further; click here
for the book. When he speaks of being numb and etc. but yet he chooses to still want to see you along with all of his other behavior; it causes me to be concerned for your mental and emotional well being because you have 100% of your emotions involved and he is not being emotionally available to you. Therefore, based on all of our exchanges up to this point, I now think the best thing for you to do is to place some space and distance between you and him and to move on in your life without him for your own mental and emotional well being. I think that if you continue down this path with him that you will only continue to be disappointed and hurt and you deserve far better than this, especially since now we know after you have laid your cards on the table that he is not going to be emotionally available for you but he will still use you for your company which is terribly painful. I am so sorry
this situation has turned out in this manner but I am glad that now we finally know what his intentions are based upon the last conversation you had with him when you laid your cards out on the table. As a result, now it's time to put all of your energy into focusing on yourself and on beginning the healing process. As you focus on yourself here are some things you can do to help with the pain:
1. Get a positive support system in place for yourself which includes loved ones and friends you can trust and share this extremely painful experience with and who will also help you through it. Also, consider attending a local support group to help you through this painful time.
2. You are dealing with various normal emotions and great pain due to discovering that Chris is not emotionally available to you, therefore, if possible, I recommend going to see a therapist, counselor, etc., in person on a weekly basis to help you heal from this along with the natural emotions you feel and may feel as you move forward (hurt, depression, confusion, frustration, anger, etc.). If you are religious, your place of worship may have free counseling available (-many churches have free counseling).
3. Write down how you feel in a journal. Then close out each writing session by meditating: close your eyes, breathe in deeply and exhale. At the same time think of something peaceful. For example: a bright blue ocean with deep rich blue waves gently whispering against the beach. Meditating will help you through this difficult time and it will also help you to heal. Also writing down you feelings in a journal is therapeutic because it allows you to get your emotions out and onto paper thereby providing a release for you.
4. Lastly, a book I recommended to my clients dealing with the same situation, which they found helpful, can be found by clicking here:
Also, be sure to write in your journal the different emotions and memories you have as you read through the book in order to continue the therapeutic process to help you heal and move on. I know it doesn't seem like it now, but slowly and surely you will be able to overcome this.