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I am sorry to hear about the problems you are experiencing in your relationship. Keep in mind that trust can be lost quickly but takes time to earn back. If your current boyfriend has done something to lose your trust then it makes sense to be very careful about whether to trust him. However, it sounds as if this man has done nothing to lose your trust, but that you are perhaps assuming that men in general cannot be trusted due to your past relationships with men. You may want to ask yourself if you would feel it was fair for someone to judge you by what their last girlfriend did.
Remember that someone who is trustworthy will do what they say; their actions will match their words on a consistent basis. Looking at his actions over a period of time is what should tell you whether you can trust him or not. Love and respect are verbs. Simply telling someone you love them is not love; it requires acting in a consistently loving way. You may want to ask yourself whether he has been showing you these things. I hope this answer is helpful. Please let me know if I can clarify further.
My current boyfriend hasn't done anything like cheating or asking for this attention. I'm aware I shouldn't judge him for what my ex had done to me or any other relationship. But I can't help but think ab it anyways. When I told him my true feelings after the 2nd episode, he reassured me that he won't do that to me and that he told these woman he was married w 2 children.
My ex boyfriend has the same situation and would call this one woman a devil that he hated bc she tried to break us up even after he sent her an email ab his devotion towards me. At the end, he went to this manipulated and low morals/values woman. So my current bf situation reminded me of the same thing. But, it was my fault bc when I was getting to know him he received an email from this woman. He had forwarded me her message bc he thought it was interesting. I had contacted her after that asking about his character and such. She told me she sends him messages but he has never responded to her after 1 year. So, after she knew we were together, she kept on sending him messages in which he finally returned with negative messages. The difference here compared to my current boyfriend, is that my ex felt bad bc this woman putting guilt on him that he was pressured to give his phone #. So that was a bad sign there and I knew it too. My current boyfriend doesn't do this.
This is what I fear that he will turn to some other woman bc he is in another country right now alone w just his male lawyer and wife who has come on to him. I know I can't control what he is doing there and just have faith he is doing the right thing towards our relationship. But, its still in the back of my mind. But now, I feel if he doesn't get his way with me all the time that he will turn to a woman who will. u understand my fears now?
His reassurance is a good sign but I'm still eerie. Don't want to go through this again like I did with my ex. See my point! But I don't want to sabotage this relationship either with my insecurities of unfaithfulness either.