Hello and thank you for your question.
I really feel for you and what a difficult time you are going through right now. Your husband is not managing well whatever is going on with him. To choose to see other women while married and with a son is certainly not a constructive way to improve your marriage. And if he is that unhappy, he should leave. The fact that he is now hanging out with your friend is yet another boundary issue, and not the best person to be talking with as she is your friend, and you already now have trust issues with him. He is definitely suffering from lack of judgment. I think that the only way you will know whether to believe him or not, is for you two to attend marital counseling together. This will not be a quick fix to believe what he just simply says to you. You will need to see it in actions from him, and over time, before you can start to trust him again. I would tell him (if you want to try to work things out that is) that you are willing to work on this with him, only if he is agreeable to see a marriage therapist with you, and to commit himself to doing this until you feel it's better. Also let him know that you don't feel comfortable with him confiding in your friend, and want him to discontinue that. If he rejects these suggestions, then at that point, I would consider separation. I wish you the best...Please click ACCEPT, if satisfied. Or ask for more info. Thank you!
Okay, so again another indication that he (atleast at that time) was not really invested in working on the relationship. However, you still need to give him those options and let him know what I suggested. He may be more willing now to seek counseling and to stay into counseling, if he thinks there may be an actual consequence to his behaviors. Right now, he may be feeling like he can do what he wants, and get away with it. So be sure that you demonstrate that you really expect him to work on this marriage in a real way. Please don't forget to click ACCEPT, otherwise I'm not credited for helping .