Hello and thanks for using Justanswer.com! I think it's very wise of you to recognize that he's not likely to be in a place where he can offer you the kind of relationship you're looking for. He's certainly in a process of transition while he goes through the divorce process, a custody arrangement, etc. If your instincts told you to back off for this reason, I think you should listen. With that said, there's nothing wrong with maintaining a friendship with him -- particularly if this is someone who you feel is valuable in your life. You know never what might happen down the road when you're both in a more stable place and perhaps interested in seeing if your friendship could evolve into something else.