I've been seeing this guy, we'll call him mark off and on for two years. I love him to death, but I don't feel he treats me right. After our very first date, he went for another girl he met at some party. When she rejected him, a few months later he attempted dating me. Various break ups included his heart was just not into it, etc. But when I'd accept his excuses and allow the break up, he'd always come back. After a while, he refused to make our relationship facebook official (I know it's silly, but they do mean something). Keep in mind this guy said he wanted to marry me and had even gone engagement ring shopping, yet didn't want anyone to know about that and no one of our friends knew we were still seeing one another, except my friends. He told his coworkers I'm his girlfriend, and his roommates, but I'm not. I haven't been for three months. I wanted to be.... I left for europe for a month to get some clarity hoping he'd miss me and realize what he really wanted. I came back to roses and more marriage talk and it was all lovely... except when I demanded we make it official. We did... for four hours then he called my crying saying he wasted my time for two years and that he was a jerk and that he's been suffering from suicidal tendencies and depression. That was odd considering he seemed so much happier earlier in the day.

I decided to forgive him, though this wasn't the first time he's tried to do something like this and blame suicide and depression. He had done it before, usually for things he does wrong (like the fact that after we had a break and broke up, he kept trying to pursue the girl who rejected him two years ago, while trying to still sleep with me although we were broken up. Thankfully I'd told him no but when I found out he began crying and called his relatives claiming he was drunk and sitting outside a gun shop. )

This time instead of freaking out and crying and asking why I said.... we did everything we could. We tried for two years. I can't make someone love me. It's time to move on. He asked to be friends and i said okay well a week passed and he asked me to go to the mall to help him pick out some sweaters and the entire time he's trying to hold my hand and later texted me about how sexy I looked while he was pumping his gas and I sat in the passenger seat. I told him this was inappropriate behavior.

A close friend of two and half years asked me on a date and I agreed, and when we went out, we really hit it off. My ex called right after the date and all I said was that it went well. We got off the phone, and then he called me the other day to describe to me how he still thought about me sexually. I again advised him to go take a nap and shower and not mention those things anymore. He left a little upset. The very next day he calls me saying my pet name and telling me he loves me then dropping on me that he's seeing someone he used to work with But I took it with grace and he said she made him happy and smiley so I told him he should totally pursue it and that I was happy for us both that we both found people we were into and could move on romantically.

He says well, I'd see you today to help you with that thing I promised but I don't feel comfortable. I said that it was okay, and then he stressed he really needed to go so I said farewell, and I thought everything ended well.

Well two days pass of silence ( a rarity as he always texts me first thing in the morning and then calls at least once a day) third day, I'm deleted from facebook. I texted him and told him it was okay he deleted me, that if he feels his life is better off without me in his life that I understood, he'd always be special, and all I want is to see him happy.

another week passes of no contact, he untags himself from all our photos together on facebook. The next week after that he starts commenting right after me on every mutual friends wall, never addressing me or anything I said, but just commenting after me. Third week of no contact, he bans me.

He should be happy that after he dumps someone they move on. I've given enough of my life and time to him and he was my first love, first everything. He had never not contacted me within five days even after a break up in the past, but I guess because I entered a relationship. I texted him and asked him for closure and called him and he just let his phone ring and ring. I also wanted a one item back that cost me a good chunk of change so I asked for that and wanted to return a pocket knife he gave me that had sentimental value and one of his old t shirts. He is not responding to that. It's like he doesn't want me to have closure or move on, and he doesn't want to return my belongings. What is going on? why is he being this way? There have been other situations in the past that have been odd as well and unhealthy. What also, can I do to move on? He was my first ever relationship and I was eager to make it work. I'm trying to put on a brave face and act as though I'm fine with his seemingly passive aggressive behavior,but it does affect me. Also, I'm fearful as the trend has been that once I'm single or in due time regardless, that this man will contact me again. I'm twenty one, and he's twenty six, and we are both in college. There's more to the story but I'm trying to simplify things as much as possible and stick to recent events at this time. I could really use the advice.

Already Tried:
I've tried talking to friends, I've tried avoiding thinking about it all together by distracting myself with activities, but when it's thing after thing every week and you're already upset, it's hard to focus on much else.