Hello and thanks for using Justanswer.com! I'm sorry to hear that things did not work out. Bear in mind that although you felt a great connection and thought things were developing well, she must not have felt the same way or else she wouldn't have ended things. To answer your questions, you could certainly send the letter for the sake of knowing that you did everything you could to try to bring her back. At this point, you have nothing to lose, right? Even if it doesn't work, it may provide you with a sense of closure in that you did all you could. If you do choose to send a letter expressing your feelings, make sure it's not too heavy or full of deep emotions that may not be appropriate for the short time you had together. Even something as simple as, "Just wanted to let you know I've been thinking of you. I miss spending time with you and had hoped we might have a future together." If she feels the same way at all, you'll get a response! Anything over the top might backfire on you -- if it seems inappropriate given the short time you had or feels like you feel VERY differently than she does, she will likely ignore the letter entirely and you may not hear from her again. Keep in mind that the sting you feel is likely in part due to the fact that she rejected you unexpectedly. It's incredibly hard to be cut off, particularly when you're feeling good about how things are going and don't see it coming. Sometimes we misread the strong feelings we have about that as "I must have really loved this person." My only suggestion would be to let some time pass before you approach her again. When you do, keep it brief and limited to a hint that she's on your mind and you hope to see her again. Save the deeper emotional expression for when / if she responds and gives you an opportunity to get to know each other further. Those deeper conversations are always better in person anyway (vs. text, e-mails and letters). One study found that only 7% of what we intend in communication is conveyed through words! The rest is frequently misinterpreted since there is no opportunity to read tone, volume, and non-verbal cues when we express ourselves in writing. This is not the kind of thing you want misinterpreted. I wish you the best of luck if you decide to move forward with a letter. Remember that if she doesn't respond, she's obviously not the one for you. You deserve someone who wants to be with you as much as you want her.
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