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Hi, can you tell me how old you are first.
The chat also doesnt seem to work so maybe we could organise a time and date or is this not possible !
Yes thanks I have accepted your reply and appreciate your help. I haven't come to a decsion because I had quite a good talk with her a few nights ago. She did say something that hit the spot though and now I have a clear understanding of what she needs at the moment. I said to her that it seems she has built up a wall which I get but what i dont get is her unwillingness to adapt a bit and make some time for someone who isnt going to treat her badly. Her reponse was that she d by lying if she could assure me that she can adapt. She said she has never had to handle a relationship and so much work (final year) and that she cannot predict how she ll be. She said maybe she ll put the effort in, but also said that she thinks all this talking was to warn me that she probably cant if the amount of pressure from her uni is too high. The past 2 years she has didnt have a personal life and she thinks that is why she has done so well with her studies however she did say maybe she is wrong and she wont know until she is in the situation. I can clearly see now that I either have to make a decision quickly because its eating at me inside every day. Do I stick with her and take what she has to offer or leave her and take nothing. Difficult thing is that I do really like her and am conscious I may make a decision based on what my heart says and not my head ! I do see this as complicated however spoke to a friend who has been in a long distant relationship for 7 years. They say each other once every 5 weeks and this has worked well. I mean my situation is different because it seems this girl has other deep rooted issues such as not wanting to stay at my house, not wanting to be romantic, things that I actually quite like. Am I willing to sacrifice this though and stick with her to see if things improve?!! For sure millions of people across the world are in the same situation, some get out while they still can others deal with these issues and get used to them ! Question is which one am I !!!!!! I still havent decided, does my writing suggest otherwise ? If you could reply once more I would appreciate then ill leave you to get on to advice others. I will let you know what I ve decided though haha thanks again !