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Hi JA customer and thanks for writing.
I am sorry no one was able to connect with you in chat. I did read your post and I am sorry that you and the boyfriend have hit a rough patch here.
I think one piece of information would help me a lot to help you and so if you could please let me know?
Was Saturday the first time you were had sex/made love/had sexual intercourse with this man?
thanks so very much for providing enough information so we can best help; you from JA
I look forward to hearing back from you.
hmmm I do not think that would explain his need to distance himself from you. Have you any other ideas as to why he has chosen to distance himself or can you share any further information that might help me to understand why he is distancing himself?Thanks for the additional information so we can best help you from here on JA.
Thank you so much Cathy. You do not know how your words are so close in soothing my broken heart. I have been going through alot of trials and tribulations with a husband that has not given me a divorce-knowing we have to move on (its been a year and a half since separation) and financial wows due to this. Because of my faith in God I strive on to do the right thing by me and my son for a better life. I am going to print up what you said as a reminder for me today. I wanted to reach out to him and tell him if it was the sexual situation, don't worry about it. He did say "don't tell my friends" when I said I was talking about him and I said 'i know, I like you. I am truly sorry if that was the case. We really enjoyed each other.
Update. He finally text me after I "text" this morning. Couldn't help it. I asked him to give me the respect to know what was the "problem". Well, you hit it. It was the embarassment of the sex and clearly a miscommunication on texting. My last texts to him were r u ok? how r u? he thought I was asking about the situation. Men, don't understand them sometimes. The day before he was texting me with jokes regarding the situation. When I had text him r u ok? how r u? I had left a message earlier that morning and never received a response.He then proceeded to tell me that he wanted to take things slow with someone, He liked me and my son but now he felt "uncomfortable" and he did not want to hurt me or my son. he said he was sorry. Should I feel that this is my fault? I don't. I am angry that he feels the need to walk away because of his own inadequacies that I had nothing to do with nor understand because he has not communicated with me.He would not talk to me on the phone. I told him this texting is misleading and their was a miscommunication. I also told him, I am sorry he felt that way, my son and I come as a package. I wish him the best and I wanted him to know I still wanted him after that situation, I didn't know what else to say to him. What else can I do?
No, I do not think this is your fault at all. NO.
I think he is a crummy guy and blaming you for his bad behavior. He is doing you a favor by showing his true colors now.
I hope you walk away from this guy and never look back. He is treating you poorly and if you stay you will only see more of the same and worse.
You are thoughtful, intelligent and mature. He is not in your league.
Find a new guy and do not give this man a second thought.'
I know you hurt like hell, but walk away, find a new guy and get over this man.
Wish him the best and then find your best.
Best wishes, Cathy