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Hi, I am 26 and to be honest have been re-shaping my life for

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Hi, I am 26 and to be honest have been re-shaping my life for a long time. I went through a tough stage 18-20 where I did silly things - nothing too major, but silly, subsequently this alienated me from decent people, it is only now that I find myself around some decent people. Anyways, my question is, I want to learn how to be a good friend to someone and what to expect from people who I deem to be my friends. I am a fairly introverted sort of person in some respects and I like my space, yet of course I like friendships, I do however find it hard to hold on to any decent friendships and am constantly disappointed by the people I meet and hope to be friends with. I know that I have high standards and that can sometimes be a problem, however on the flip side I like to think I am fairly flexible in my approach to friendships, I constantly try to find the good in people its just sometimes I get so bored with people that I just give up being their friends. For example, I like say person x, but unfortunately they drink like alcoholics (no exaggeration) and constantly talk behind peoples backs and gossip, I find it extremely frustrating, anyways, my question is: how or where can I learn how to be a good friend and what to expect of my friends, without being too picky. I am reader so any books or websites you could recommend would be much appreciated. Regards.
Submitted: 6 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Dr. Bonnie replied 6 years ago.

The above link to Amazon is the classic book of all time on this subject. I will be back with others.
Expert:  Dr. Bonnie replied 6 years ago.

Sorry it took so long to get back yo you. The more recently written book is this.

Nwo you have the oldest and the newest.

Good luck

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