Thank you for contacting Just Answer. You are absolutely not being unreasonable. He is being totally insensitive to you.
He doesn't see it that way and has made me feel very guilty. She is married now so he says it shouldn't be an issue but I still have the sense that she holds a torch for him...he also said that I have made him feel uncomfortable talking to other women because I have been jealous in the past. He said he wants more female friends and that I make him feel trapped but honestly I don't think I am any more jealous than the next woman - this all seemed to come out of the blue! It has worried me as we just had a baby and I hope he is not getting itchy feet
He is not acting normal. He is being totally out of line. I am terribly sorry that he is making you feel this way --- it is totally not your fault. He is the one who should feel guilty for what he is doing to you. I will be away until 4:00 P.M. I'll check back when I come back in case you have other things to ask. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT ! ! ! ! !
Thanks, XXXXX XXXXX be your advice about how I should handle this in terms of what I should do or say? Should I pretend not to care so that ?
I think you need to tell him that you don't think that that is how someone acts when they are married. First I would turn the whole thing around. Ask him what his feelings would be if you wanted to meet up with an old male school friend that you have lost contact with for a number of years. He has a crush on me. I hope you don't mind that I get together with him. See what he thinks about that? In other words since he is too narcissistic to see how you would feel about something like this let him see how he would feel in such a situation.