Hello and thanks for using Justanswer.com! I'm sorry to hear the relationship didn't work out, but applaud you for recognizing that you wanted more of a commitment than he was willing to give at the time. It sounds as though he has moved on. The brief texts are likely a way to keep you in his life for some reason, though. As a friend? Just in case things don't work out with this other girl? It's difficult to know for sure. Best to keep your responses as brief as his and try not to instigate them. After all, would you have wanted an ex to text him when you were dating? Out of respect for them both, it's best to avoid getting between them. They will either have a future together or they won't. If they don't, that's the appropriate time to express your feelings to him (assuming you still feel this way). In the meantime, focus on healing through whatever self-improvement makes you feel good about yourself. Counseling is a great way to start. Think about what you learned from the relationship, the qualities you liked (about the man and the relationship itself) and the things you weren't willing to settle for. Those things will help you to identify what it is you're looking for in future relationships whether it be with him again or with someone new who already wants the same things you do.
Many thanks for your email. It is very tough and I go through moments of feeling positive and then other moments of feeling tearful and upset that it didn't work. He has really hurt me because of what he said when we split up not transipiring - him taking time out to sort himself out is not the same as going out with another girl about 3 weeks later! But I guess there is nothing I can do about it.
Ooo, can't hit return here obviously! I wanted to say I do appreciate the advice though. It is handy and made me think about it a little bit differently - taking back control for my feelings and actions and not analysing why he has done what he has done.