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Hi and thanks for writing JA
are you there customer?
Hi how are you tonight?
ok but frustrated
yes, I dont think we are connecting
okay I guess we are after all
I have read your post.
you are frustrated because she is not giving you any more chances and now you have to move on and dont want to?
am I right?
yes it seems that way
so you have two choices as you know...............you can persist in trying to force her to change her mind which will just anger her further and push her away more or you can do as she asks and move on with your life.
which will it be, no matter how painful?
i find that difficult to do and want my family back
Difficult to move forward?
or difficult to leave her alone?
yeah i,m in France we arrived here together and now i feel trapped into staying in france for my kids and also thinking of in the future meeting someone new in my own language
I am not following.
you are saying you cannot leave France because your children live there?
diifficult to leave her alone
Okay thats a different story
If you wish to co parent your children in any way, whether you leave France or stay in France you are going to have to respect her wishes and leave her alone? Do you understand this?
leaving her alone is exactly what i need to do but just cant I love her to bits but just didn,yt know how to show it just want another juchance thats all
She has said no
so you have to move forward before you create more damage here
you see, just because you want it to be so does not make it possible
yeah hard to accept after 15 years and 2 beautiful children
You have to respect her wishes or it will get worse.
I understand that it is very difficult indeed and I am sure your kids are great
but there are two ways to handle this. smart way and not so smart way
If you are smart you respect their mothers wishes and move on withyour life
so that you can co parent these children together
and if you are not smart you will continue to apply pressure to her and drive her further away and risk more time with your kids.
the lesser of two evils in this case is at least having a good relationship so you can see your children no?
Dont lose them too
when she left she said its over for now I still have a property to finish renovating which we signed for together now i have tons of work to do and find it hard as this was going to be our family home
what does over for now mean?
she sounds very very confused and immature if she said over for now?
how old is she?
Heck she is one very sick woman.
Grab those kids and run.
no one says over for now
thats what a six year old says
over for now
its either over or its not over
if she said over for now, get an attorney and you have grounds for full custody of your kids just on the basis of her bad behavior
if she said its over my previous answers apply
she seems to be very instable and very strong at the same time crying a lot and flashing attention from other men in my face but just flirting
Either way I cannot imagine any court awarding her custody if she plays those kinds of games..... France is much more strict about these things than the US. She will be laughed out of court.
Cant be both.\
She is unstable and game playing. go to court and get custody of your kids before they are taken away. Promise you on this.
No sane 38 year old says over for now.
You can actually apply without an attorney in France. Just be sure you tell the court exactly what you wrote here.
when i said what do you mean over for now she replies we;ll its over
take your kids and move on
Is it over or is it over for now?
you tell me
i,d like to be a bit more patient with her I don,t want to get the legals in
You are harming your children by staying with this woman.
do you not care about your children?
yes very much
then take the kids and leave
I cannot even believe you do not see this as a blessing
what kind of woman says its over for now?
fifteen years and two kids and its over for now?honestly
get your kids and get out and dont look back.
maybe she went to see a fortune teller lol
I have been in practice for over 30 years and treated thousands of couples this today, your post is the most bizarre ever.
what do you mean
Okay you will be fine. I think she did you a huge favor by leaving you. Now go to court, get custody and thank your lucky stars that you are able to get as far away from her as you can.
I have never heard of any adult ever say, over for now. Thats just insanity.
Its either over or its not, over for now, is insanity.
Dont lose a moments sleep on this. She did you a huge favor.
look shes actually very sweet but very immature
Good Luck and very warm wishes to you. Sorry to had to live with this. Make better choices next time?
Well she is not stable enough to parent much less parent independently so you have your work cut out for you and if you think that is immaturity?\
Have a good night. get to court and get your kids to a safe place.
good luck to you and good night