Sorry for the delay in responding--had to step out for a few hours.
Yes, it is fairly common for men to be able to tolerate a fair amount of time without communication, especially after only one date.
Your experience of "over-disclosing" on the first date is a common mistake people new to the dating world often make. There is something liberating about having someone's full attention focused on us, especially when the person is, essentially, a friendly stranger. However, this really isn't a good or wise idea. If you never see this person again, you have disclosed the intimate details of your life to someone to whom they mean nothing...and who may not feel any obligation to keep them in confidence.
Disclosing too early opens you up to assumptions or conclusions about your character, and what he can expect in a relationship with you. This can go either way, depending how intimate the details were. The fact that you felt comfortable disclosing does not necessarily mean that he was comfortable hearing those details.
It is much wiser for a woman to find out as many details about the man as she can before she begins to disclose. Some things about our pasts, especially when it concerns past relationships, are best kept private until there is some particular need to divulge.
Since you are new to the adult dating scene (as you would have been a teenager when your last relationship started), I would like to suggest a wonderful book for you to read:Temptations of the Single Girl.
This book will help you avoid the most common mistakes women make in dating. I think it would be particularly helpful for you as you are trying to find older men to date. You have life experience behind you, but not in the dating world. While you are waiting to hear from this man, (it is important to see if he is attracted enough to contact you first--please fight the temptation to be the one to start making contact. If a woman makes herself too available, she loses value in the dating world. (Really---read the book). The book is written by a therapist, and will help you immensely.
Be careful... the dating world is both exciting and scary..
I wish you the best!