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so my mom just recently got a new boyfriend and I for some

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so my mom just recently got a new boyfriend and I for some reason have a crush on him and i know that shes going to leave him...what should i do?
Submitted: 6 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Suzanne replied 6 years ago.
Thanks for Writing to Just Answer.

I need a little more info:
How old are you?
How old is he?
What is your relationship like with your mother?

Customer: replied 6 years ago.
i am 18 and he is 28. i have a pretty good relationship with my mother
Expert:  Suzanne replied 6 years ago.
Thanks for filling in the blanks.

I have to say that pursing your crush with this man is a bad idea on so many levels.

1. The age difference--ten years is a generation. You will always be the "kid" in this situation.

2. If he has done anything to encourage your crush, that tells you his character is flawed. A man who would flirt with his girlfriend's daughter is not to be trusted...and this would be true if the two of you got wouldn't be able to trust him either.

3. There is something just not right about a man sleeping with both a mother and her daughter.

4. If you have a good relationship with your mom, and she's going to leave him, don't you think it's possible she's seen something in him that makes her want to get away from him?

5. I cannot imagine that your mother would be able to handle you dating him.

6. You will be putting a man above your relationship with your mother.

There are a lot of men out there who will not complicate your life like getting involved with this one will. A crush will fade with time, but the damage that could be done by getting involved with this man will last much longer.
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