Hi and thanks for writing JA
I have read your post and am so sorry for what you experienced when you were 14 and sorry to hear that it was so traumatizing to you that you were not able to access help on this. As a result it has cost you a friendship however tentative that friendship might have been.
A few things that I am a little bit confused about?
I am not sure how your ex friend took friends away from you? Did she lie about you? Spread false rumors? I guess if you could clear up this one part we might be better able to help you. How is she doing this?
Thanks so much for the additional information and warm regards, Cathy