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It so happened that the officer and my ex came to the door at the same time. My ex was hostile and on the defense as soon as I opened the door. I explanined to him that I had called for advice and that I was awaiting a call back however, since an offficer was in the area she had stoped by. My ex said to call my attorney. That he was taking her and that he was going to do anything and everything he had to do in this situation. He said he couldn't believe that I had an officer involved. I told him I had questions about custody rights. He was rambling to the officer and she had to stop him more than a couple times when he said I said something of which I did not. He would not allow me to talk and he said to my daughter, "come on we're going". I never had time to ask if she could stay and calm down. He would not have let that happen. He won't discuss anything with me and again said to contact my attorney. When he left, the officer stayed and she said she had never heard an adult speak to a child in that way. In her words she said, "it sounded like he was putting her on trial." My daughter began to cry and he showed no compassion towards her. The officer noticed that. She said not to talk with him while my daughter was there. She didn't need to hear that. The officer said that she doesn't know if the verbal abuse part would necessarily hold up in court. I guess that they look at a lot of things in determining where my daughter would like to stay other than just a few instances of "foul language"?? The officer's advice to me was to call concilation services whom I worked with earlier in the year for another situation involving my ex and tell them the story and ask for advice on where to go from here. She gave me an event # XXXXX her badge number and her name. She said that all calls were documented and the court could look into it to find my call.
He would not let me go with them. She is now gone and put back into that situation. My ex contributes it to "being a family". "There are times you get a long and times where you don't and you have to learn to deal with it and not run away from things each time they happen." He doesn't think I have a let to stand on. I know they just won't say ok, go live with your mom over this, but what else and where do I go from here now?