Hello and thank you for your question.
Your BF's sister physically attacking you is completely over the top! You have tried to inquire about what the problem she has with you might be, and rather than talk with you, she punched and screamed at you. I would definitely NOT go to any family events where she will be present. The issue here, honestly, is your boyfriend's reaction. He is not being supportive enough of you and how she is treating you. He should be outraged at her abuse of you, and let her know that she owes you an apology and that she will never treat you this way again. If she will not do this, then your boyfriend also needs to eliminate contact with her and not attend any functions where she is present. It sends the wrong message, if you are not present at a family gathering, if he still goes. It says that it's your problem, not his. When in fact you two are a couple and should have a united front. So, he is avoiding dealing with this and just wants it to be over. I agree with you, that things are not over. Over would mean that she has apologized and made amends to you about what happened. Stay away from her and have a talk with your boyfriend about how he can better show his commitment and support of you, by setting those limits with his sister, about how she can and cannot treat you! Please click ACCEPT if satisfied, otherwise I'm not paid for my assistance. Or, please ask for more info. Thank you!
Thank you for your reply... i have one more question... i probably can not avoid her completely... NO i will not be attending any more family events .. but there will be parties and other weekend trips that are not "family" events but they are camping trips with a bunch of old mutual friends and she no doubt will be there.... I do not think that it is fair for me not to attend those things... just because she "might" be going as well. But then again it scares me thinking that she will be there and do not want to spend my time trying to avoid her or looking over my shoulder for fear that she might catch me alone.
How do you suggest i deal with those situations?