Hello and thank you for your question.
It doesn't sound like there is anything unusual about your feelings for Jon. Let me ask you something before I give you an answer. Have you ever told him or hinted that you have an attraction or are in love with him? Has he ever made a pass at you or flirted with you? When he says just trust in us, what does he mean? As a couple or what exactly? And has he been involved with any other women since knowing you as a friend?
Okay, thank you for more details. Wow, you guys really are close and sound very compatible as well. I don't think you are overthinking this....it's not unusual to fall in love with someone with whom you share so much, etc.
You didn't answer my question if he had been involved with any other women since being your friend? Is there any possibility that he is gay? And that is why he's not into you romantically? If it's not that, then he is either not attracted to you in that manner, or is really closed off for some reason sexually or afraid of being hurt romantically? Ugh. This is a dilemma. I do think that if it is going to become increasingly difficult for you to be this close to him, without the relatioship turning into a true couple on all levels.
You need to decide if you can maintain this friendship, without romantic love. If you can, then I would not bring it up further. If you feel you cannot, as it's too hurtful then I would let him know how this is bothering you and that you are lost as to what to do. Remember he is your best friend and you can tell him this. Ask him point blank if he only sees you as a friend, and if he has ever considered you as a girlfriend. To be honest, I think he will say no, otherwise I can't imagine that he wouldn't have moved into a more romantic relationship with you.
So, go ahead and just ask him and tell him you are having trouble with the closeness because you are in love with him. I don't think you need to hide this from him....as he is so close to you. Let me know how it goes....Please click ACCEPT, if satisfied. If not, then please reply with more questions. Thank you!
Just to be perhaps more clear.... if you are needing to end the friendship because it's too painful for you, then I would scale back and or end it... if he wants to know why, then you can tell him that you are in love with him. And that it's too painful. If you think you can just be his friend, then I would not tell him..and just keep being his friend (only). Another idea could be that (even though you don't feel like it) would be to perhaps go on some dates yourself, and just see how he reacts. That will definitely tell you how he feels...if he doesn't seem jealous or tries to intervene or tell you how he feels, then he definitely just wants you as a close friend. This is not an easy situation. I do feel that you have told him that you are interested in him...and that it's his move at this point.
I wouldn't wait around for him if I were in your shoes... You need to do what feels right for you. I don't think it's humiliating by the way, to let him know your true feelings.
This is a tough one... either accept him as a friend and what you have currently. Tell him your feelings and see what he says. Or start dating and see how he reacts to that.
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