Thanks for writing to Just Answer..
I get the feeling just reading your note (very well written, by the way...) that she may already be interested in you. Giving you her phone to put your info into is a very good sign. And the fact that she took such care with how she looks at school may mean that she is already feeling like having a boyfriend in high school may not be what she wants.
I'm so afraid to lose this girl, what do I do?
You can't lose what you don't have. And you don't have her yet. This is going to take some patience. Once classes are in full swing, you might try to put together a study group...and of course, invite her. Hold it in the evening, not too late...and ask her if she wants to grab a bite to eat--very casually. You could even make a light reference to her boyfriend to reassure her you know she's 'taken' (for the moment).
Very few high school--college relationships last. The are each in very different stages of their lives. Your challenge is to show her what a college relationship can be.
And I disagree with the advice you got about telling her now. Spilling your guts so soon, when you don't have a clue how she feels about you would be a mistake. You need to attract her to you, not throw yourself at her feet.
It sounds like you're doing everything right so far...keep including her in things, try to figure out a way to get together after hours without it seeming like a date. Ask her how it is having a boyfriend in high school...really listen to the answer...it will tell you what you need to know.
I would love to hear how this all turns out...
Keep the tone light and funny. And phrase it like an invitation to join you..you could make some joke about hearing they have gourmet .......(fill in the blank with something absolutely NOT gourmet) in the union & you're gonna try some after class, want to join me??
I'm sure you can come up with something more clever, but she responded well to you asking about her pet rather than being direct, so follow that lead.
It may have been an error to ask for the next Friday after her telling you that Friday's are reserved for her bf...If the opportunity comes up again, go for another day.
You have put yourself out there, now its up to her to decide whether to respond. It sounds like things are going strong with the bf at the moment if she's reserving days for him.
I wouldn't ask again unless something drastic changes, like her telling you that she has nothing to do on Fridays any more. You let it be known in a nice way you want to see her outside of class, she declined.
Don't remind her...if she needs reminding, she isn't interested.
Remember, she's in a relationship. If she started seeing other guys while still having a bf, she wouldn't have a very good character.
Don't make anymore 'get together' moves until you know she has gotten out of her relationship. Keep the conversations fun, so that she looks forward to seeing you. At this point, that's all you can do.
And if by any chance she gets back to you and says "I can get together on some other day..." make sure you don't refer to it as a date. Just keep it light, make her laugh. If she decides to "test the waters" you don't want to make her feel defensive or guilty about hanging out with you.
At least you know she isn't a cheater...
I'm glad you're feeling more confident! If you present yourself as well in person as you do in your writing, I have no doubt you will find the (available) girl of your dreams. One of my favorite reminders is that god answers all prayers, and the answers can be
not now, or
I have something better in mind for you."
I'd be happy to talk to you again if something comes up after you've clicked "accept."
All best wishes,