Hi, I understand you frustration and heatbreak. I wish there were a better solution, especially if you were willing to take part in the process of recovery and took responsibility for her. I would suggest that you and your wife seek counseling to help you get through this time if you feel it is overwhelming. Once this is resolved, not matter what the outcome is she is young enough and can start over, and with your guidance (not enabling) she can still live a productive life. Like I said before, hard lesson to learn. You sound like really caring parents and I wish you good luck.