Hi, I am sorry that your are in this situation with your husband. If this behavior is relatively new and he hasn't requested this type of "play"before then you need to address it with him. I would suggest a complete physical and mental examination for him (I know he won't go to psychiatrist) to rule out any organic or mental conditions. Then I would suggest you find out what he is doing (if anything) on the computer. He could possibly be scouring pornography sites and it may be a turn on for him. If so, he may believe that your participation in these behaviors would help him be more sexually turned on, It may not be that you aren't enough for him, it could be his newly discovered "turn on's".It may be a crisis in terms of his aging and this may seem like a way to boost his sex drive. If you are not comfortable complying to his requests you don't have to do it, don't be bullied or pressured into doing something you don't want to do or that goes against your beliefs. I would also suggest that if he won't go to therapy you go alone so that you can figure out a way to respond and take care of you.
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