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You should not do anything you're not comfortable with. If you are going with friends, you ought to be fine sticking together. Your husband could be a bit more flexible (try to let him see that the other women's partners are ok with this) Although you are married, you are an independent woman who should do what she wants to do.
If you want to address the fear of flying, hypnosis is highly effective.