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Dr Rossi
Dr Rossi, Licensed Psychotherapist
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Ive been interested in this woman who seems to have had a

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I've been interested in this woman who seems to have had a long history of sabotaging relationships, because of a bad experience with a man. I've given her a lot of time and space to feel comfortable with me, while we have wonderful chemistry, but she gets skittish when it comes to getting close. I've been very patient, but I'm really need some advice on what to do about her. She seems reluctant to move forward, but when I advance, then she retreats. When I practically give up on her, then she's interested and tries to connect with me. If she wasn't worth it, then I would have moved on a very long time ago, but my patience is wearing thin. I'm concerned that she'll never get past this behavior, and that I'm just wasting my time on her.

Recently, she had mentioned that she's been making some major changes (long overdue), but positive changes for her. I'm hoping that she'll ease into things, so we can finally get together.

Any suggestions?

RT
Submitted: 6 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Dr Rossi replied 6 years ago.

Good Afternoon,

 

Perhaps you would not want to give her mixed messages (one minuted interested, the next "stop communicating with her") That may be something causing the ambiguity on her end.

 

As far as her being hurt from a past relationships with men, that is something she needs to work on. There is nothing really that you should be doing going out of your way. Everyone heals on their own terms.

 

What do you mean she is not ready to commit? Do you not consider yourself dating as a couple?

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